Why we finally decided to cut our 3 year old hair!

Let me just say this wasn’t an easy decision getting Jaxon’s hair cut. My husband and I have always said we were not going to cut Jaxon’s hair until he verbally told us. However, we decided that it was time for a couple of reasons.

Jaxon has sensory processing disorder/ Autism Spectrum disorder which means for him he doesn’t like being touched, his hair touched, being dirty and a list of other things.

One of the main reasons we cut our sons hair is because he hates it being brushed or comb and it requires a lot of time to make sure it was well kept.

Most mornings were a battle to do his hair.

Another reason we cut his hair is because people always want to touch his hair without permission. It was a constant issue of having to tell people to not touch him and his hair.

The final reason is because his hair was getting so long and out of control. With Jaxon’s hair wet it was literally down the middle of his back.

Trust me we loved his hair long but we did what is best for him. He seems to like it 🙂 plus hair is hair and it will grow back!

Pregnancy Loss: My Story Breaking the silence

Before I begin this post I just want to be completely honest and transparent with all of my readers. Please don’t feel sorry for me or for us, we have the power of God’s LOVE who has given us the power to overcome with faith and hope.

I have decided to move forward and I’m going to be okay, I really believe that. I just wanted to express myself and it’s through my writing.

Most people didn’t expect me to come out and share the sad news of my pregnancy loss, especially on social media of all places. With so many people announcing their great news while others who lose their opportunity grieve in silence.

I think it’s great that people share their happiness with the world however you never really hear the sad news. The news that a couple who had been trying for a child loses their pregnancy and the husband is deployed 6,000 miles away.

Let’s go back to the day that doctor saw the baby but didn’t hear the heartbeat. The day I found out that my pregnancy ended in miscarriage was hard, I was scared, sad and just didn’t understand.

Usually 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. This happened to me before, a year before I had my son, my rainbow baby. Although my heart was excited to finally announce my pregnancy my mind knew something wasn’t right that morning.

My nerves were all over the place and I couldn’t shake this feeling that something wasn’t right. A week before I had my ultrasound appointment, there was a day when I felt complete sadness, I didn’t know why. My body had already started the grieving process of the loss of the pregnancy.

I decided to share my story this time around because I’ve been down this road before years ago. That time in my life was dark and I suffered alone. Many times women don’t share that they loss a child( miscarriage)because they’re either scared, ashamed or hurt by the pain of loss. Did you know 1 of 4 pregnancy will end is miscarriage? I am the 1 in 4 ,twice now.

To be able to carry a child is a complete miracle that so many women take advantage of. Breaks my heart when I see so many women complain about being pregnant especially when I would give anything just to have my pregnancy again and make it to the very end.

I ended up having emergency surgery the very next day and I was in good spirits. I was ready to say goodbye to this very short chapter in my story.

I was completely shocked of all the women who reached out to me privately to let me know that they experienced loss too. From women who loss early on their pregnancy to having stillborns. So many women suffer in silence.

I’m not sure why this has happened to me again, but I will not be ashamed to keep it in and have sadness in my heart.

Sometimes God will lead us down a different path to show us what exactly we need.

I know one day I will get to see my babies again that I have loss. I just don’t want to stay in a mind of frame of grieving , so I’ve chosen to be strong and move on. This pregnancy just didn’t line up with the plans God has for me at this moment. I’m not going to question God and ask why. The lord never says no, sometimes his yes is not right now. God says he will give us the desires of our hearts if we believe and I really trust what he says.

(Some of images used are not mine, I do not own the rights, images courtesy of google)

Just know I was in a place of sadness,however, I’m not in that place anymore. I have grieved the loss of my child and have moved on. Doesn’t mean I will forget the loss of my precious baby, it just means god has healed my heart. I have chosen to move on. Of course I have my days where I’m sad but it’s okay, I’m human. Please don’t feel sorry for me. Prayers are the best thing anyone could ever do for me.

Thanks again to my great support system for loving me through the difficult time of my life. If you’re a woman who gets a chance to make it to the end of your pregnancy without any complications just complaints. Remember someone would give anything to be in your shoes. Count your blessings.

Thanks for reading!!!

The reality Is: Another Deployment Is Here!

(I do NOT own this photo, courtesy of google images all rights reserved)

As my heart prepares for yet another deployment, my mind isn’t quite really grasping my husband is really leaving again.

To be quite honest I’m going to miss my husband more than anything.

So many people will never really never know what it’s like to go through a separation for a long period of time. What makes the separation hard for me is that my husband is truly my best friend and helps me so much. There aren’t many husbands who play a big role in their family, but my husband is one of the major key players.

My amazing husband has a job to do with the military and I totally understand that, that’s why my entire family is proud of him.

Being a military spouse you have to understand that your wife or husband has to make true sacrifices such as time away from you. As a wife and mother I am prepared and more than ready to take on all the responsibilities of both my husband and self. Thanking God for building our faith, and our relationship closer. I know for a fact that Jesus has my back, knowing that is bigger than anything I could ever imagine.

Yes -I’m prepared to cry, yes-I’m prepared to have my moments of insanity, but I’m also prepared to make this deployment better than all the other previous ones. I’m prepared to be the woman, wife and mother I always have been, phenomenal!

As a mother, my heart is not ready for when Jaxon ask where his daddy is. I pray that I will be able to comfort him and keep him so busy that the time will just pass. I haven’t really blogged or vlogged lately, however, I plan to make a come back after my mini sabbatical. Not sure when it will end, but I need to be inspired to write or do my YouTube thing.

Thanks to everyone being patient and understanding. If you can’t check on us the best thing to do is pray for our family. Mentioning us in your prayers is one of the greatest blessings. Thanks for reading and always supporting.

Celebrating My Birthday !

I really enjoyed my birthday and wanted to share my AMAZING trip in video form. Make sure you all are following me on YouTube, like, comment and share…

Thanks so much for supporting! My NEW YOUTUBE channel is called Mia Joy. All links are below.

Part 1 and 2 my birthday ⬇️⬇️⬇️

Happy Birthday, A letter To Myself: Year 29

((A letter to myself: Year 29))

Happy birthday Mia! Today is the day that you were born 29 years ago. Wow girl, almost 30; enjoy this final year in your 20’s.

I wanted to write you to encourage you because you need to know that the person you can trust is yourself better than any one else. No one is more proud of you than me. Yup, you make me proud. You make yourself extremely proud and humbled.

Thank you for starting to trust yourself more and allowing us, you, me to be the best version of ourself. God see’s you, God hears you and God knows your intentions.

This is going to be the year that God really uses you for his kingdom woman of God, in more ways than one. Don’t be afraid Mia, you got this. Continue to stand firm on the Word and continue to build your faith. I know it’s easy for you to be afraid of the unknown , but continue to let Jesus get the glory in your life. You have been through hard circumstances in life and you’re still here.

Make year 29 your best year yet. Keep professing your love for Christ and don’t ever get discouraged for loving him. You represent the kingdom of Christ, that means your life must reflect such. People will try to bring you down. People will shun you. People will hurt you, but remember God is faithful and gracious with his forgiveness.

The day you looked at me, us, you in the mirror and said ,“ I’m going to make my heart the most beautiful thing about me”,was the day that God poured the purest love from his own heart to yours. Never change who you are, the real you. Mia, keep opening up and breaking down those barriers that try to hinder you. Christ is in you, and you shall not fail. When you need a reminder, read this letter out loud. “ you’re more than enough, and no one is more proud of the woman you are than yourself”. Keep growing Mia, keep becoming the best version of yourself. Remember God didn’t bring you out of darkness for you to go back.

Continue to be the light and speak your truth.

Happy birthday queen.

Here’s to year 29.

Xo,

Yourself

Give God A Chance, A REAL Chance

Give God a chance

I love to write when I’m inspired by things that I’ve personally experienced to help encourage someone who can relate to me on some level.

Any chance that I get to talk about God’s hand over my life and how real he is – I will.

There’s nothing fake about how much Jesus has changed me and has blessed my life. The same blessing I have through Christ, you can have it to, but first you have to give God a chance. Give God a real chance to fulfill his purpose over your life. Anyone reading this, has a real purpose.

There may be someone reading this right now who may be having the toughest battle with life, people and relationships; the lord told me to tell you to give all your problems to him. God loves you and will see you through whatever your situation is, just give him a chance.

So many times people do not have patience and want The Lord to be a right now God; everything is about give me, give me and more give me. People forget that some of the best unanswered prayers are the best ones, for our protection or even blessings.

When life doesn’t always go the way we plan as a people, we can give up on God without ever really giving God a chance to fix our circumstances.

This Generation is so quick to tell others that there is no God and make others question his existence. Usually those people didn’t give God a real chance. Just ask yourself have you really given God a real chance?

My constant testimony is on how God changed me , it is what confirms my belief that Jesus is who he says he his. Let God take your heart and your pain. Sometimes God has to really break us to get our attention.

The more my walk and faith grows with God, the more I trust him. This didn’t happen overnight for me, let’s be honest. I was one of those people who believed in Jesus, however, I didn’t ever really give him a chance. My relationship was very lukewarm, always putting God on the back burner. Then one day I gave everything to him and I just wept. There I was going through some of the most challenging times and not relying on God to see me through.

One of my favorite scriptures in the entire bible is

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

I could cry thinking how God knows every situation and every battle; that God loves you so much to conqueror it all if you let him.

To the person who may need this, you aren’t alone, give God a real chance and watch him change your life. God is love.(all images used are courtesy of google, I do not own the rights)

Thanks for reading

-Mia