The reality Is: Another Deployment Is Here!

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As my heart prepares for yet another deployment, my mind isn’t quite really grasping my husband is really leaving again.

To be quite honest I’m going to miss my husband more than anything.

So many people will never really never know what it’s like to go through a separation for a long period of time. What makes the separation hard for me is that my husband is truly my best friend and helps me so much. There aren’t many husbands who play a big role in their family, but my husband is one of the major key players.

My amazing husband has a job to do with the military and I totally understand that, that’s why my entire family is proud of him.

Being a military spouse you have to understand that your wife or husband has to make true sacrifices such as time away from you. As a wife and mother I am prepared and more than ready to take on all the responsibilities of both my husband and self. Thanking God for building our faith, and our relationship closer. I know for a fact that Jesus has my back, knowing that is bigger than anything I could ever imagine.

Yes -I’m prepared to cry, yes-I’m prepared to have my moments of insanity, but I’m also prepared to make this deployment better than all the other previous ones. I’m prepared to be the woman, wife and mother I always have been, phenomenal!

As a mother, my heart is not ready for when Jaxon ask where his daddy is. I pray that I will be able to comfort him and keep him so busy that the time will just pass. I haven’t really blogged or vlogged lately, however, I plan to make a come back after my mini sabbatical. Not sure when it will end, but I need to be inspired to write or do my YouTube thing.

Thanks to everyone being patient and understanding. If you can’t check on us the best thing to do is pray for our family. Mentioning us in your prayers is one of the greatest blessings. Thanks for reading and always supporting.

Life Updates (2/20/18): Answering your questions!

Life updates and a few changes

Many of you have wondered where I have been? It’s been a hot minute since my last blog post. Please forgive me, so much has been going on.

Let me first address the questions I constantly get asked.

Why did I return to making videos on YouTube?

Initially when I decided to stop making YOUTUBE videos, it was because I had a lot of people following me on there that were just nosey folks or ex associates that didn’t care to communicate in real life;basically stalked my every move online.. It was really bad. But I have made a choice to start again and won’t let anyone stop me for doing what I love. Plus YOUTUBE is my creative outlet to just be free and do what I want.

I also felt at that previous time that the content I was putting out wasn’t authentic and just wanted to stop all together. It was a good break and gave me an opportunity to start over and fresh. Fast forward to now; I’m doing what I love and most people don’t know I’ve started over. I’ve had a few people comment on how much they can relate to me. Now my videos focus on what I love like my family, my relationship with God, food, college and my home.

I wanted to capture moments to look back at, I’ll discuss that further down. I know I have several readers across the world and if you want to see more of a glimpse of my life check out my channel Mia Joy!

What about school? How is college? Are you still applying for the dental hygiene program?

School is very time consuming, I spend hours studying and doing homework. College is a lot for me to handle right now, but I’m managing just fine. Yes, I plan to apply to the dental hygiene program next year or the year after depending on my grades.

Is your husband is deploying again? For how long and where?

For OPSEC reasons I can not disclose any information for the protection and privacy of my husband and family. Yes, my husband will be deploying. Can’t share any more details:)

How is your mom? Is your mom still living with you?

My mom is good, yes she is still living with us temporarily.

Another baby soon or are you guys trying ?

We have come to the conclusion we would like another child, however, we are patiently waiting with God’s timing. Hope that answers,lol.

Any updates on Jaxon Speech therapy and diagnosis? We are on a wait list to see a developmental pediatrician specialist, the wait list is 4 to 6 months. While we wait for a diagnosis, my son will continue Speech therapy.

I hope that answers a few of everyone’s questions. I promise once everything settles down for me I’ll be back to blogging regularly. Don’t forget to check out my YouTube and subscribe.

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Xo Mia

Oliver Family Vacation Orlando, Florida 2017

Recently my little family and I took a week vacation to Orlando, Florida. What an amazing time we had! Originally when my husband came home from deployment in May, our family was suppose to take one, but conflicting schedules made us push it out until December.

We decided we needed more than 3 days of having a family vacation. Time goes by so fast it’s harder to bounce back, so we decided 7 days should suffice.

The hotel that my family and I stayed at was the Hampton Inn. The Hilton Hotels are the only ones that I’ve found that meet all of our expectations and never disappoint.

SeaWorld

The weather in Orlando was absolutely perfect the entire time. It didn’t rain once, Florida is known to rain throughout the day; no rain for us just sun rays.

I really admire how much theme parks honor our military members. If you don’t know my husband currently serves in the Navy. Bush Gardens/ SeaWorld offers all military members one free day pass once a year including dependents. We didn’t have to pay for our pass for the day, only thing we paid for was parking and food. SeaWorld was an absolute blast. Jaxon, our son, loved seeing all the sea creatures-whales and sea otters. I’m glad we did the trip in December because the park was decorated with all the Christmas decor, trees and lights.

Legoland

What an amazing experience we all had at legoland! Another perfect day and unique sites we loved seeing. This attraction is a must do for all ages. I was so impressed with the section that Legoland had for toddlers. Our son Jaxon did not want to leave. We also got to see amazing structures made out of LEGOs.

Food for our entire trip was….GOOOOOOOD

Y’all when I say the food the entire time we were there was AMAZING, I mean it was AMAZING. If you didn’t know the traffic in Florida is bananas to drive in. I downloaded this app called UberEats(not sponsored).

This app was a complete life saver, basically you order food from anywhere and it’s delivered to you. This worked out to our advantage so that we didn’t have to drive in the crazy traffic.

Overall I’m so thankful to God to have had the chance to spend some much quality time with my boys. I loved every second of being with my husband and son. No set obligations or schedules to do anything or see anyone was the best. My favorite part was sleeping in. I can’t remember the last time when we all slept in past 8:30 a.m ,my husband is normally is up by 530 am back home for work. Sleep was such a luxury for the entire family.

This vacation was well needed and well deserved. We are already planning the next adventure. Thank you all so much for reading! See you in the next post.

Xo Mia Joy!

Family Day: Water Park Fun

One of the biggest things I’m thankful for in my life is my family. God has blessed me beyond measure when it comes to them.

Recently we had a family day of fun since Summer is ending soon. We decided to go to Water Country USA. My husband has never been before and the last time Jaxon and I went he was 1 years old.


Jaxon our now 2 in half year old really enjoyed himself. Having a son who isn’t scared to swim and slide down slides is great and scary at the same time. This mama was having mini heart attacks from all of this adventurous fun with my tiny human.

I haven’t really talked about my Niece Arianna on a blog post before. Allow me to introduce my beautiful princess, Ari is 7 years old and one of the greatest little humans I know. Jaxon and Ari are favorite cousins. Despite their small age gap, they’re as close as brother and sister. 

I love the bond my niece and son share. During the whole water park trip the two of them spent 99 percent of the time together. Riding slides and floating in a two person float under the water fall. Wherever Ari was, Jaxon wasn’t too far behind.


Not only did we get to spend time with family, we made memories. I got to just sit down and talk to my sister who is my person. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up and busy with life. Taking time to spend with your family is so important, especially because life isn’t promised tomorrow.

My sister Shanae and I shared one of those churro’s sticks. The churro stick is a cinnamon sugary delightful Spanish dessert. Oh it was delicious. Flashbacks laughing out loud.

 My boys, my heart, and my everything.
I love seeing how great of a father my husband Jason is. Out of all the titles my husband carries, being a husband and father are the best. The way my husband loves our son is the greatest love.

After readjustment of my husband being home 3 months after deployment it has been a good transition.

I really enjoyed having this fun day with my loved ones.  All I ever dreamed of when I was a little girl was for a family of my own. A family to love and adore.

The joy of having my husband and child is amazing. I’m happy that I’m close with my sister and her family. We ALWAYS do fun things together. I just wanted to share the people who keep me going, the people who make my life, and my family who give me purpose.

Thanks for reading!

God bless the broken road that led me back to him

God bless the broken road that led me straight back to him.
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I know I’ve shared bits and pieces of my testimony of how I’ve been through so much in my life.

So many decisions of others and the consequences of their actions that has shaped the individual that I am. 
I decided to share a piece of my journey to forgiveness and restoring my faith.

Deployment 

My husband was deployed 15 months. If you haven’t ever experienced a deployment, it’s where your significant other is away serving their (our)country.
Being a military family is hard especially when you have children. So much falls on the other parent. The responsibilities that the spouse takes on is a lot, almost too much for someone. Instead of taking on one role, you take on two.

I had to make decisions sometimes without my husband, sometimes the decisions were difficult.

Having to rely on yourself and family is tough. I have said this and I won’t ever stop saying this but my family was and is always my BIGGEST support system. I got really blessed in that department. 

I had friends and other people who said they were going to be there fo my son and I when my husband deployed and never was. I barely got a phone calls. Seemed like everyone was dropping like flies. 

Deployment really changed me and my thought process to everyone.

I had a sense of high expectations for people and they failed because I placed the bar so high.

Hurt feelings 

I had to get to a place where I wasn’t going to let people hurt my feelings. So I stop caring. When you stop caring it can be very dangerous. Not only dangerous for you but for them. If they didn’t care at all, why should I was my thoughts. 

Unforgiveness 

Unforgiveness can weigh on your heart and God says we must forgive so that we can be forgiven.

 

Building my faith

I started to read my bible more, shifting my focus. I became the person I needed. I started to encourage myself. I started praying more. Most times I didn’t know what to pray. Building my faith up stronger and stronger.

Going to church consistently 

I started going back to church consistently a few months before my husband came back home. I had to make myself go. I realized that church was where I needed to be. It was one of the greatest decisions I made. Surrounded by God’s love and God’s people. Church has been so uplifting for me. 

I was so worried that others didn’t show they cared that I had people who genuinely loved my son and I all along in God’s house. Everything that was lacking was sitting right in the Lords house. My sister Shanae is the BEST person in my life. My sister and family have been truly amazing. If you ever need someone to encourage you with God’s word, go to her. Shanae would and still calls me to make sure I’m showing up for church. It makes me laugh sometimes because she doesn’t need to call anymore because I’m consistent in my walk now. I appreciate her doing it though.

One day
One day I received this ugly text message that I have screened shot(not worth sharing). That was so mean, hateful, and rude. This message was from an unknown person. This person tried to hurt my feelings. 

The person who sent it obviously had an issue but it made me think they had an issue not me. It  was so random, especially because I never thought I would get something like that. I’m building my faith and then this message shows up.
What made me upset is that the person questioned my faith and mentioned my child. Two things I don’t EVER play about is my child and my God. I really had to ask God to forgive me and the person whom ever they were. 

I will never understand why people are malicious.

Road to forgiveness 

I’m honestly on a road to forgiveness to all the people who have hurt me. I thank God for Jesus. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things, you’re going to forgive someone(s) who may never apologize or think they have done you wrong. God showed me people’s true colors for whom they really are. I believed it the first time. I won’t let people hurt me again. Instead I pray for them and keep my distance. Praying for people is one of the best things you could ever do.

God is STILL

God is STILL working on me. I’m not worthy some days, but God has showed me he loves me. Even though times I felt alone during deployment,Jesus never left me. Jesus was holding me up when I was weak. 

I’m thankful that the brokenness that WAS, the hurt that hurt me lead me straight back to God. I now know I’m more than a conqueror and everything that happens to me, I already have the victory in.
God bless the broken road that led me back to him
Thanks for reading!

The truth about transitioning;The fear of the unknown 

😱The fear of the unknown😳  

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As many of you know my husband will be home relatively soon. And as we get closer and closer to the date of his return, it’s a certain anxiety I’m starting to have. If you read the title you guessed it, I have a little fear. I have a slight fear of change and letting go. Every military spouse experience this type of anxiety. It actually comes and goes in cycles because of this military life style. You experience your significant other being home, helping you, doing their share of duties. And then you experience the other side of your significant other being away/deployed/out to sea, and you’re doing things on your own. It never gets easier. 

Can I be honest with you all? We are friends right? Well, I am super excited for my husband to come home. I have missed being in his presence doing absolutely nothing, random date nights, family nights and doing all the things families do. But I also have anxiety of letting go. What do you mean by letting go? It has been over a year that I have been doing things on my own. Having a schedule, doing things a certain way and being the main parent making decisions. Although my husband is the head of our household, I have had to make executive decisions on his behalf. Some small decisions and some big decisions. I had to act as if he was here with me and trust I made good choices, especially if I couldn’t reach my husband. Now I have to prepare to turn back over that role to my husband. I’m excited to give that responsibility back,but I’m also nervous. I haven’t read any articles that talk about the real transitions that you have to go through as a military spouse.

 This is where my anxiety kicks in, how will we adjust to this? Is this transition going to be easy and smooth or is it going to hard and complicated? My husband and I have an understanding of the roles that we have in our marriage. And many things will be changing. I’m currently a homemaker and keep everything running smooth. My husband as I mentioned before is the head of the house hold, provider and keeps our family. A few more task will be added as far as I will be starting school and my husband will be in school as well. I’m not sure how I will do with school because I haven’t had to do class work in 10 years. I’m excited for this new chapter,but nervous on how I balance it with my homemaker role and also being a great mother and wife. 
I talked about my fear and anxiety. Guess what? I have to also consider my husband transition too. My husband is going to have to transition from living alone, complete silence, eating take out everyday to being home with us. It’s not so quiet at home because we have a 2 year old. My husband and I will have to share each other space. Plus I cook dinner most nights( that’s a plus, lol). 

The main thing will be reconnecting with another on all levels emotionally, and physically. I know I shouldn’t have anxiety or fear, but I know God will keep my family and our faith will keep us strong. We will have to lean on God to help us transition smoothly.

I hope this post helps at least one person. Just know you are NOT alone.

Thank you all so much for reading. I will see you in the next post. For more updates you can follow us on YouTube: SparklesandSippycups Tv. Here’s a link

Xo,

  Mia 😘